Rosemary and Lavender: A Writer Wednesday Post

May 8th, 2013 | Posted by Irene in Essays


Rosemary and Lavender Rosemary and Lavender, photo and all text © Irene O’Garden, 2013

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A poignant week. Aunt Rosemary, whom you met in my December post Peaceful Balance, passed away this week. She had the grace to do so on her 91st birthday, thereby not spoiling another day for those who love her.  On May 2nd, it’s her birth we’ll commemorate.

I had already planned to write about a related topic after recently visiting a friend we hadn’t seen since her husband’s memorial last year. We talked of her mother who died years ago. “Sometimes I smell her perfume,” Patty said. “When there’s no scent in the air.  I smell English Lavender so clearly, and I know it’s her.”

What if there are energies wanting to connect, to tell us they are near, and yet they cannot take us by the elbow, soothe our brow, place an arm around our shoulder? Without physicality, by means of consciousness, they pass a charge though our brain that we interpret as a scent. More evocative than the circuitry of sound or vision, scent carries gardens of experience.

What a powerful way to greet us, using senses without a physical object to stimulate them! So what really is a sense if we can sense what is “not there?” Perhaps the difference is in our definition of “there.” Perhaps all “there” is “here,” as all “them” is actually “us.”

Such gifts are found in the open doorway between our inner senses and our outer ones.

I deeply inhale the crisp refreshing scent of Rosemary, for remembrance, knowing it bears special meaning from now on.


Have you had such an experience?


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  • Scott

    I will now consider scent as a portal to other dimensions. To smell more deeply will be a fragrant new goal. I would love to make the “there” that I love much more a part of the “here” I am living in.

    • IreneOGarden

      What a lovely thought–thank you, friend–

  • Cecilia

    Oh, Irene, what a loving, enduring tribute!
    And yes, my 9-year old memory of exploring my father’s closet, burying my face in his neatly hung 3-piece suits, and breathing deep … brings him back to me.

    • IreneOGarden

      Thank so much, C-C, for this comforting tender image–

  • Angela

    I have sometimes heard answers from departed loved ones, but never with a scent or other sense impression. Maybe I just need to pay more attention! Thanks for the tip.

    • IreneOGarden

      How wonderful to be receiving answers, Angela! Whatever form they take–

  • Brian Hig

    Nice Irene,
    Scents can be powerful memory joggers. But the scent of Rosemary for me is one of the most amazing. It IS like an energy that takes me by the elbow, soothes my brow and places an arm around my shoulder -different than a memory jogger. Perhaps an avenue for kind spirits to reach us? quite plausible! This year I’m planning to tincture some of the lavender in our yard. Just the word lavender starts the feeling.

    Our longings never end. Once we get rid of a longing, another (or two?) takes its place. Thoughts (also an invisible “non-thing”) bring us what we long for. They drive all the human actions of the world. They change the physical world (reality) in very real ways. The intentions behind our thoughts become extremely important. The difference between choosing love or fear (the difference between creating nuclear electricity, and the bomb).

    Here’s the idea. We pose as harmless hippies, around the world we emit lavender scent (highly in keeping with our disguises). Calming, soothing, affirming scent. Think of the effect it would have on the intentions behind the thoughts, behind the actions and creations of the people, Watch how it changes the world! Free guidance from spiritual friends. Having fun, but it could work…. ok… Im done…

    • IreneOGarden

      Thank you, Brian–I am so with you on our intentions and how they create our world–will dab on lavender today and think of your peaceful plan!

  • Juli

    Irene, thank you thank you! It is still too soon for me to look, to be aware, to feel her presence, but I know it will come, just as it has with Dad and Tracy. I don’t believe, I know.

    • IreneOGarden

      How beautiful to be as open as you are, Juli–I know you will perceive her, too- with her welcoming companions!

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